By now everyone should've heard about the Anita Teldaldi story. Family adopts a baby of another race, then 18 months later terminates the entire thing because they "didn't bond". Her whole theory was to show you can still love a child as your own even when they're not.
First...what the hell kind of bonding was she looking for
Secondly...bonding goes both ways...maybe you didn't appeal to the child for him to open up to you the way you'd like or maybe that's just not his thing. Some people can't even bond with the children they give birth to - so now you're going to use adoption as a trial and error project....?
Raising a child takes work whether the chils is from your womb or not...the child she received was left on the side of the road...so it's possible he could have early on-set emotional detachment issues. Who knows...but by taking him into your home then sending him away again can't be doing anything better for this poor child's outlook on life or self-esteem...now you've probably made him feel so unwanted - worse than being left on the side of the road since at least those parents didn't leave a lasting imprint in his mind. He KNOWS you, he's gotten accustomed to you and your lifestyle and you've messed up his feeling of stability and consistency. Hopefully whatever family has him now will have more patience or be a better fit for him.
First...what the hell kind of bonding was she looking for
Secondly...bonding goes both ways...maybe you didn't appeal to the child for him to open up to you the way you'd like or maybe that's just not his thing. Some people can't even bond with the children they give birth to - so now you're going to use adoption as a trial and error project....?
Raising a child takes work whether the chils is from your womb or not...the child she received was left on the side of the road...so it's possible he could have early on-set emotional detachment issues. Who knows...but by taking him into your home then sending him away again can't be doing anything better for this poor child's outlook on life or self-esteem...now you've probably made him feel so unwanted - worse than being left on the side of the road since at least those parents didn't leave a lasting imprint in his mind. He KNOWS you, he's gotten accustomed to you and your lifestyle and you've messed up his feeling of stability and consistency. Hopefully whatever family has him now will have more patience or be a better fit for him.
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